I want to homeschool, but don’t want the responsibility.

I want to homeschool, but I don't want the responsibility
Written by Jamie Martin, editor of Simple Homeschool and founder of Steady Mom

Often I take a look in Google Analytics to see what brings people to Simple Homeschool. Many readers arrive after an online search, on the hunt for information about a certain topic. Common searches that bring readers here include simple homeschooling, homeschool encouragement blog, waldorf homeschooling, and making the first homeschool day special.

But my heart dropped a little when I read that a few people found this blog after typing in “want to homeschool, but don’t want the responsibility.”

Fear of responsibility on the homeschooling path isn’t uncommon. After all, so our thoughts tease, if we send the kids to school and things aren’t going well, there’s someone else to blame. But if we grasp this calling fully by the reins, we know in whose direction fingers will point if results aren’t in line with the norm.

Even typing that makes me anxious, so I know that for others just starting out, the feelings come with even more intensity.

Homeschooling isn’t for cowards, you know.

There’s no magic formula for anything in life, including home education. But here are a few thoughts to remember when you get frightened by the enormity of the task ahead.

1. Just take responsibility for loving your child–today.

Childhood experts generally agree that parents are the ones who know what is best for their toddlers–little ones need love and security above all else. That need doesn’t change just because a child turns five.

The foundation for a strong learning experience is relationship. That’s why so many children don’t get the education they deserve–relationships, in the classroom or at home, are in turmoil.

Most people feel confident that they can love their child, but question whether they can educate their child.

In reality, they are one and the same.

Thinking about all the years from age four to high school graduation is enough to make any mom swoon. That’s why I only ask myself what I should do today.

So don’t research a physics curriculum if your child is seven. The future only offers fear. Start with today’s responsibility–it’s simple.

2. Question the system.

Most of those reading this post grew up within the traditional school system. As such, we’ve accepted certain beliefs about education that may not even be true–beliefs we never were encouraged to question.

This is especially true for those who have just started considering homeschooling and haven’t had time to research alternative educational philosophies.

Some of the things we may believe:

  • “Experts” are required to teach children.
  • I’m not qualified to do this.
  • I haven’t learned something until “they” agree that I have.
  • School has to be boring.
  • There are just certain things that must be learned, whether you like it or not.
  • This (curriculum, style, philosophy, etc.) is just the way education is.

The educational blueprint that is standard today did not even exist two hundred years ago. What is now the norm wasn’t always.

This doesn’t mean that the system is always the enemy, never has successes, or never does anything positive. It just means that it isn’t the only way. Learning doesn’t have to be this complicated. For those just beginning to question the system, I highly recommend the book Dumbing Us Down by John Taylor Gatto.

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3. Your children’s education is your responsibility no matter where they go to school.

Homeschooling is absolutely not right for every family, in every situation, every year. But your child’s education most certainly is your responsibility every moment of every day–no matter where she studies.

This was impressed on me when I first began learning about British educational reformer Charlotte Mason. She took issue not only with poor parents who sent their children to work too early, but also with rich families who hired governesses and then considered their job “done.”

Mason rightly believed that the goal of education was not to merely fill a child’s mind with certain facts. I found myself giving her an internal standing ovation as I read these words:

The question is not, –how much does the youth know? when he has finished his education–but how much does he care? and about how many orders of things does he care? In fact, how large is the room in which he finds his feet set? and, therefore, how full is the life he has before him?”

4. Accept (& even embrace) that there will be gaps.

Was your education perfect?

Nope, mine either. Though most of us graduated from traditional schools without knowing all, many homeschooling parents deeply fear that they won’t be able to cover everything.

Let me put it to you straight – you won’t.

Are we trying to raise intelligent robots–or children who discover their passions and purposes in life? In spite of No Child Left Behind, children are being left behind in vast numbers each and every day.

Your responsibility, Mom and Dad, is not to produce perfection.

Your responsibility, as a homeschooling parent, is simply this: to nurture, love, forgive, believe, pray for patience, deliver grace, spread the feast, feel the fear, act in courage, get up tomorrow, and do it again.

How have you been able to embrace the responsibility of taking on your children’s education?

About Jamie Martin

Jamie is a mama to three cute kids born on three different continents. She serves as editor of Simple Homeschool, and blogs about mindful parenting at Steady Mom. Jamie is also the author of two books: Steady Days and Mindset for Moms.


  1. That was the final thing for us in deciding to homeschool my children. I knew it wouldn’t ever be prefect, but it’s our responsibility to make sure our children are learning as best as they can and why not, we’ve helped them learn everything since birth, we CAN do this!!!

    For me the best thing about homeschooling our children is that they now love to read! By 2nd and 4th grade our 2 older children hated reading because they didn’t enjoy what they were forced to read in public school. It broke my heart they they hated it so much. Now, they love to read so much that they are constantly researching things and learning new things on their own, simply because THEY want to. That makes my job easier!! Once in a while I will ask them “What is something you would like to learn more about?” When they decide they go research, read and learn everything they can about it. Sometimes they will write a few paragraphs, sometimes a paper and sometimes they will just share all they learned with us. It is very common for out 2 older children now 11 & 13 to spend close to 2 hours reading each day.

    In the end I know they now love reading, and there isn’t much the cannot learn if we miss something if they know how to read and have the desire!
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  2. Your title gripped my heart. This was the first of homeschool posts that I’ve read ALL THE WAY THROUGH in a while; not skimming over the content.
    With 6 children, all levels, it IS most days overwhelming to know that I’m “doing it right”.
    Thanks for the encouragement.
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  3. I have only been homeschooling for a few months, but I can readily admit that I do not always “want” to. I find the task to be overwhelming at times!! However, I am very fortunate to have a strong faith in my God to provide me with the strength, wisdom, patience, and the desire to handle the task that He has called me to do. Without Him, I would not have entertained the notion to begin with! My husband and I believe that regardless of how we sometimes feel, we must trust that God will continue to equip us for the task of raising our children. He’s called our family to take on this role, so we trust Him. The responsibility IS great, but we do not (and–we dare not) do it alone :)

  4. Seriously, the responsibility of raising kids at all is scary if we think about it! :) I love #3 and AMEN! I just take it day by day, and lots of prayer!
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  5. Jamie, this is beautiful! Such good encouragement for everyone, no matter where their children are learning right now. We really are responsible for our kids’ education, no matter where they learn. And instead of this truth being scary, it’s really freeing. How cool is it that we’re given the task of raising the next generation?

    Great post, friend.
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  6. AMEN!!!! Thank you for writing this!!!!! I am a former public school teacher now homeschool teacher and am finding it very hard to “break” the norm and teach my children a “different” way than the schools. Teaching them to love learning is way more important than stuffing facts down them. So, thank you for encouraging and inspiring all of us! :)

    • I always love to hear from those who taught traditionally as well – thanks, Laura, for sharing your experience. And for your encouragement, too!

  7. What a great post! It is so true that you can easily get wrapped up in what a responsibility homeschooling is, to the point that it is intimidating. But it is our responsibility to be involved in our child’s education. I actually find that now my son is educated at home, by me, it is sometimes less stressful because I know what is going on, rather than second-guessing what is going on at school.
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  8. before homeschooling (this is our first year) i never got how homeschooling and parenting go hand in hand (and sometimes are one in the same). discovering that for myself this year has been such an encouragement to me. we have our curriculum, but we also learn about things and deal with issues as they come up in life. what a relaxed and interesting way to learn! and our family has bonded so much throughout the process.

    our daughter will be attending a school next year (for language and culture reasons), but i definitely plan on doing some things at home (even if it’s just reading all the books we can get our hands on).

    “But your child’s education most certainly is your responsibility every moment of every day–no matter where she studies.”

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  9. Fantastic post! I was nodding all the way through.

  10. I’m printing this out right now. You just said perfectly every thought that I had been wrestling with for the last four and a half years (since the day my daughter slipped into my world and changed everything). I especially like #3. Everything surrounding my children is my responsibility. Why should their education be any different?

  11. Point 1 –

    “Most people feel confident that they can love their child, but question whether they can educate their child. ”

    My brain immediately said:

    “Living is learning and when kids are living fully and energetically and happily they are learning a lot, even if we don’t always know what it is. ” – John Holt :)
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    • Love John Holt, Jessica!

      It blew my mind the first time I began reading some of his thoughts. He had such a wonderful respect and love for children.

  12. This is one of my favorite posts you have written here. I think this is one of the biggest issues that comes up when people ask me about homeschooling. I often hear, “I don’t know how you do it. I could never…” And I often lack for how to answer. It is hard to explain the fullness of how I feel it is the best choice for my children, their future, our family and to fulfill our calling/stewardship as parents. I appreciated your lines ” Homeschooling is not for cowards” and “Embrace…that there will be gaps.” Thank you for this post.

    • Yes, I always think “I could never do it, either.”

      I still think that many days, but that doesn’t change my commitment to doing it. The good stuff that changes lives and makes a difference isn’t always the easy stuff. But it’s still the best stuff.

      Thanks for your encouragement, Linda!

  13. I’m another that doesn’t always read the whole posts on blogs, but I read this whole post, and thank you. We are in our first year of HS our daughter (15). Highschool isn’t the easiest place to start, but it’s where we started. Granted much of it, she does on her own, but there is a big chunk that her father and I have to have a role in. And we have another little guy (2) that will be HS from the start. That is where I feel the most overwhelmed. Some HS blogs show them filling their days with the most awesome adventures, I feel that I won’t be able to do that. I know that in time and with much prayer, I too can be a great HS MOM!!
    Thanks for this post today. Keep up the good work.

    • Amanda Anderson says:

      I just wanted to encourage you NOT to do it all! I have a 3 year old who is the third and I, too, see what everyone else is doing and feel like I should keep up. That is, until I remember that now is the time that I can spend taking her places and doing things very loosely. There’ll be time to really focus later :)

    • I absolutely agree with Amanda, Katie. Your son (& daughter) will have the most incredible childhood just by having the chance to be with YOU.

      The amount of hours you’ll get to invest in him is so much greater than what he would be getting in a traditional classroom, and together you’ll be able to create the education that suits him (& you) best. It will be beautiful! Your courage to start where you have inspires me today.

      Be blessed!

  14. Oh, this is so very well said. Sometimes I begin to panic if life intervenes and we don’t get to everything I had planned for the day, but then I take a step back and look at my child and see that he IS learning everything I want him to learn: curiosity about the world around him, a hunger for knowledge, compassion for others, and practical life skills.
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  15. I agree, I think one of the best posts on homeschooling I’ve read in a long time. On the occasions that I’ve fantasize about sending the kids to school I’ve found part of the fantasy is relinquishing that responsibility. But that’s a fantasy.

    Thanks for writing so succinctly.

  16. Strangely enough, the decision to homeschool was an easy one for me. I love to learn and always had a passion for it – do learning WITH my son is going to be an exciting challenge.

    Then there is my son. He WANTED to be at home. In spite of his truly bright nature and energetic desire to learn, he hated school. He couldn’t talk to other kids and be as social as he wanted (I hate that the principal herself asked me about “socialization”), and he wasn’t at the pace he desired.

    I have watched an 8 year old spend an entire week researching sharks, saving information from different sources, tracking down pictures, and having FUN learning something new. I know it doesn’t work for all kids, but we’re running on a mostly interest based curriculum. The only thing that doesn’t go into that is math and some science. I can handle that.

    You just have to figure out what works for your kids and roll with it. Some like the structure of a planned curriculum… and some have wandering minds. I firmly believe each type of personality has great value.

  17. This is a great post, Jamie! I think it is looking less and less likely that we will decide to officially homeschool, but I firmly believe that my kids’ education is mine and my husband’s responsibility, so matter where they go to school. It boggles my mind when parents just send their kids off to school everyday without a second thought about what they’re learning, how they’re learning it, etc. It’s still ultimately our job and our responsibility, as parents. That helps me to feel better about any “gaps” that might be there in the education they receive in public school, because I know that their public school education is far from being the only education they get.

    • Yes. This is what I wanted to say too – that even if I didn’t homeschool, but sent my child to public school (or wherever) that their education would STILL be MY responsiblity. One of my husband’s biggest frustrations (he teaches middle school) is that parents expect him to be a miracle worker but they don’t want to be held accountable for helping their own children with their learning, with social/life skills, etc. A school system and a teacher – even one who genuinely cares about your child- cannot replace the parent.

  18. An excellent post – it is sure to encourage many parents who fear homeschooling all the way through high school! As a former public school teacher I realized my “best” students were those whose parents were very involved in their children’s lives. I became one of those “involved” moms for 3 years when my eldest child attended a private school. We were troubled by the duplicity in the schooling system and took our child out of school and homeschooled her and the younger children.
    Nothing replaces an interested and involved parent. Despite this, the decision to homeschool is not cast in stone. It is our best choice for our children for now. We trust Him for guidance as we navigate our children through the high school years.

    • Nadene, I’m curious what you mean by “the duplicity in the schooling system.” Would you mind elaborating on your experience a little bit? I’m wondering if this is what we’re going through right now, as amazing as my daughter’s Charlotte Mason school is.

      Just curious. :)
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      • I refer to duplicity in the children in the school. Even though the school board, the teachers and parents, the curriculum and ethos were selected for Christian/ Charlotte Mason/ (or whatever) principles, we found that the children were just that – children. Even though the teachers mentored and disciplined the children, our child was regularly exposed to peer influences and doubtful, immature society. I respected the dedicated teachers and the headmaster, but wanted my child to respect others, be sincere and grow in those values and principles our family stood for.
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  19. This is our first year of homeschool. I really needed this post today, I feel like I have not done much (they are both in Kinder) this year except figure out how to help them learn. I have had to learn for the last five months what kind of “learners” they are because until we started I really had no idea. This was very encouraging to me because I often visit other homeschool blogs and feel as if we are not doing what we should although we are following our curriculum. (Heart of Dakota) Thank you for reminding me that I am able to educate them because I love them.

    • What you are doing is absolutely perfect for the age of your kids – truly, Kimberley!

      You are setting them up for the best future success just by investing your time with them, even when that doesn’t look the least bit “educational.”

    • We too are using heart of dakota, and I love it, that is when we do “structured” schooling. I have a 5yo and 21mo. I see what everyone around me is doing and think I”m not good enough because most days I see her as only 5 and think she doesn’t need to be rushed into formal learning at this age, rushed to grow up. And I don’t need to be stressed while trying to balance the grabby 21 mo and missing the fleeting moments of babyhood. When I”m not doing as the world is though, I think I”m failing. And then there are these moments like tonight after nursing the babe to sleep I walked by my 5yo room and through the sliver of a light through the crack I hear and see her. Reading a book to herself. Sounding so clear. She’s learning. It doesn’t matter how it happens just that she is. And that I’m here to witness it in the simple moments.
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  20. I loved where you said homeschooling is not for cowards. That is certainly true. My husbands family believes I am not ‘qualified’ to homeschool my children because I am not a certified teacher. It takes a lot of courage to kindly stand up for what I believe is right for our family.
    Thank you for writing this. It was just the encouragement I needed!

  21. Wow Jamie! Such a great post — and a great reminder that as homeschooling parents, we don’t have to do everything the way it would happen in school, we just need to do what works in our home for our own children. I often get hit with feelings like “I’m not doing enough,” and when that happens next time, I will return to this post. Thanks, as always, for the inspiration!!

  22. Wonderful. I’m home-schooling my oldest (of three) Kindergarten this year and struggle to stay focused with two younger ones at home. Writing about teaching them to LOVE LEARNING is very motivating. I just asked my daughter, “What would you like to learn about this week?” and she immediately said, “How the sun sets and why do roses have prickles?” How fun will it be to discover these things and more. Hugely encouraging…Thank you!

  23. Thank you so much for this article!! It was just what I needed., along with all of the wonderful comments! We are planning to HS after this year and my oldest will be in 6th grade. We just got all of the info on the middle school and what the curriculum covers and I started to panic a little that we wouldn’t be able to teach “enough”. Everything about your article hit home and gave me that reassurance (as well as my husband’s ability to re-frame my thinking), that all will be ok.
    I am so grateful to be able to get insights before we “officially” start to homeschool! Thanks again!

  24. I have to tell you that your article really hit home for me.

    I have 5 kids and one has autism. We have toyed with the idea of homeschooling because he is not getting the services he needs and is not being taught the way HE learns. We feel at 10 he should be able to tell time, count money, know life skills. These are more important to us than some of the curriculum they are teaching him.

    Plus he is in a zone half of the time bored and not focused.

    When you quoted Charlotte Mason it all made sense.

    I worry about how i can keep him focused here at home if I taught him. I do doubt if i can do this but your post was what I needed to hear.

    Thank you

  25. Jamie, adding my voice to the many already here. This was amazing my friend. So, so encouraging. As I take a morning off (because we just went winter backpacking and I have 4 loads of laundry to do, no dryer, a mess of gear all over my living floor) of “school” I needed to read this.

    But I need to read this on many days that I feel so not up to this awesome responsibility. Like the days I wonder why my son isn’t confidently reading yet or feel bad that I can’t offer my daughter dance classes this year. When I feel I’m not covering all the bases and we are heavily skewed towards art and creativity.

    Loved that last little paragraph… and get up and do it tomorrow – Amen sister.

  26. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! Mother of 2 and one on the way and I feel so very heartbroken dropping my 7 year old off every morning, (to one of the “best schools” in the nation) imagine that :( Even being a certified elem, teacher I am SO VERY intimidated about getting it all right and your piece today has helped tremendously ! ! ! I can and will help the best that I can every day and I suppose that is all I can really ask of myself and of my children, thanks for taking the lid off of the pressure cooker I had put myself in !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  27. Thank you for this encouraging post! <3

  28. I love, love, LOVE this! Yes, it is our responsibility {their education} no matter where they go to school – and that’s what I find most troublesome… I put a lot of time & thought into homeschooling our boys, but so many people put no thought into schooling choices AT ALL!

    I know that some people do the thinking & make the choices and still arrive at public school, and that’s great! Homeschooling is definitely not for everyone. But I really wish people would take the time to consider their decision, and not just decide that since the child is 5, it’s time for public school kindergarten.

    • I feel the same way, Christi. I only began considering homeschooling because I felt I needed to consider ALL the options available to me.

      I wish more people would keep an open mind and consider it as well.

      Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts.

  29. I so needed to hear this today. We are in the midst of pulling our child from a school setting and it is stressful! We know that we (mom and dad) are intended to be her teachers, and feel that burden right now. Thanks for the reminder it wont ever be perfect, so we should aim for something different.

    • That must be incredibly stressful, Thayer. Blessings on your family as you take the steps that feel right for you all.

    • We pulled our son out of 1st grade this year, around Thanksgiving time, and it *was* stressful! I can assure you that when you are having your first homeschool morning and you find that you are not running around like crazy to get ready and out the door, you will be glad! Good luck to you and don’t let anyone at school bully you into betraying your ideals!

  30. We aren’t homeschooling yet (kiddos are very little), but are currently reading Dumbing Us Down. We both work full time now – so are trying to figure out what the future looks like for us – and how to become one income, so we can take on the role of educating our children.

  31. Wow, I’m totally blessed and humbled that so many of you have resonated with this post.

    I think we all relate to the same fears and insecurities, but the fact that you are all continuing forward is proof of what the power of love for our kids leads us to do. You are all inspiring!
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  32. Wow… Totally awesome post… Amen and Amen!!!

  33. Very encouraging post as I’m going to start homeschooling my daughter next year for KN. Thanks!
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  34. Thank you.

  35. This was well-timed for me. We still have a few years before our daughter is ready for kindergarten, but we have already begun discussing it. Some days I feel so capable, and other days I can’t imagine bearing the full load of her education (in spite of the fact that sending her to school would also mean me headed to school as a teacher). It’s a great reminder to go one day at a time. Even with the “preschool homeschool” we’re doing now. Sometimes love is the only thing accomplished for a day, and you know what? That’s ok :)

  36. We are only a few months into our homeschooling journey and I tell myself every single day that rome was not built in an hour, a day or a year even.

    I found myself crying before and after school days for my son. Every day was a pep talk. You can do this sweetie, its ok you’ll be fine! I would miss him. When he got home he was stressed, tired and most days ” in trouble”. Socially anxious and dissolving from the inside out. We are taking one day at a time. He’s the happiest I’ve seen him in years, and even though this may sound selfish I no longer have to miss him.

    I always fear that one day I will wake up and they will be all grown up. What if’s are on my mind day after day but at least I know he’s happy, healthy and we are both trying our best. I still think about resorting to outside resources to insure “the best” education. Ultimately it IS the responsibility of it all that scares me most. What if… what if…what if..???

    • My son was in public school kindergarten for about 6 weeks last year, and the experience for him was almost exactly like you described it for your son. Your description of him as “socially anxious” and “dissolving from the inside out” was precisely what we were seeing. It was absolutely heartbreaking. Taking him out of school was stressful, but he is so much happier and healthier at home. (And volunteering at the school while he was there was extremely helpful for me, as I got to see first-hand, how very little was being accomplished all day, and how the much-touted field trips I attended were mostly chaos and a complete waste of time.) Enjoy these precious days together–you will never regret it!

  37. My parents worked to death to send me and my sibblings to a private school. I missed so much not having time with my talented and sweet mom who was so tired at the end of the day.
    We have homeschooled since the beginning. We love it and it’s so worth it.

  38. This is a great post. Everyone fears this. If I start to look at what it might look like two years from now or ten years from now I can’t handle it. So I take it day by day and year by year. Less scary to swallow, plus I can’t know what it will be like until I’m doing it.
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  39. Thank you for this. We’re relatively new to homeschooling (only a few months in after dropping out of 1st grade) and I’m still in that place where I *know* its the right thing to do in this moment, but still unsure of how it’s all going to work out.

  40. What I needed to hear as we begin a new week. At times I am overwhelmed with the responsibility I feel for teaching my kids, (ages 9, 7 and 3). But in the end, the longing in my heart is to nurture, love and encourage them to be who they have been designed to be. So, I begin each day on my knees asking for the humility, patience, grace and discipline to take them there bit by bit.

  41. I really like SimpleHomeschool, but I was really offended by the “Homeschooling isn’t for cowards” line. To me, it implied that if you send your child to a traditional school (no matter how involved you are), then you are a cowardly parent. I understand that is probably not how you intended the line, but it still irks me. I think it is wonderful that some parents choose to homeschool, but I don’t think that making a different choice would make me a coward. (My kids are 2 yrs old, and 9 months old, so we won’t be making any schooling choices any time soon.)

    • As someone who also isn’t homeschooling yet (my 4 and 3 year olds attend a wonderful preschool), I wasn’t offended by the line “Homeschooling isn’t for cowards.” To me, it didn’t imply anything on parents who choose a traditional path, but rather speaks directly to parents who choose a non-traditional path-homeschooling. For me, if I choose to homeschool I will have to do so against the advice of my mother (a public school teacher), most of my close friends (all public school teachers as that was my previous occupation), our neighbors, and society in general. My children’s daily lives, social skills, and academic acheivement will be looked at through a much larger magnifying glass than if I chose to send them to the traditional public school. Making the choice to homeschool would take a huge amount of courage on my part, but I equally feel that I would not be a coward if I end up educating my children in public school. On the contrary, I’m going to have to work up a large amount of courage to drop my baby off at a very large school, in the trust of a teacher I don’t know well.

    • You are always welcome to share your thoughts here, Rheagan–even if you don’t homeschool or if you disagree. I’m sorry you were offended, I most certainly do not think parents who choose traditional schooling are cowards in any way or form.

      Parenting in general isn’t for cowards, it requires courage each and every day. And we all make the decisions we believe are best for us and our children.

      All the best,


  42. I’ve been working on a post related to this topic & this galvanized me to finish it.
    It’s called “It is good enough to be kind”

    cheers :-)
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  43. I was never a big fan of homeschooling until I took it on for myself and my family. Now I really wonder how we ever got to a point (as a society) where we would willingly hand over our children to an institution and have almost no input into their education. Yes, it is a huge responsibility, but I am so darn glad to be able to take it on. I never would have envisioned myself here 6 years ago, but darn am I glad that it’s turned out the way that it has. I am so thankful for the “extra” time that I have with my child.
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  44. best thing that stuck out from our services this Sunday:
    “We have a right to divine inspiration on behalf of those under our stewardship.”
    In other words, we, as parents, will always be led and guided to what we need to do to care for our children. We have a right to those instincts, and a responsibility to listen to them.
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  45. I love this post! I only have an almost three year old and the pressure to put her in preschool is on! But I’m resisting. In a few years, I hope I can be brave enough to follow through what my heart is telling me to do. I feel like I have a lot of personal work to do, a lot of growing up before I can pull this off. But as you said, I can only love my child for today. Future does bring in the fear a bit but focusing on what I can do now to get there is also helpful.

    Thanks, Jamie!

  46. I don’t think saying “homeschooling isn’t for cowards” is derisive at all. There’s absolutely no way anyone could argue that it is an easier path to homeschool a child. Not to imply the alternate path is cowardly, but to describe homeschooling and the fact that this decision is without a doubt not for the faint of heart.

  47. Before I read #3, I was mentally thinking “but you already ARE responsible!”
    You handled this beautifully, addressing the fears well. I think I may not have been so gracious in responding.
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  48. Jamie, this was just what I needed today. We are in the process of transitioning our three out of public montessori school and into homeschool (starting last fall and hoping to end the transition this summer)- every day I keep vacillating about whether we’re making the right choice, whether I can ‘do it all’, etc. I think the responsibility of it all is what overwhelms me. Thank you for the encouragement to keep in mind what really matters.
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    • That would take lots of courage, Mary Beth. God bless you all in the path you’re pursuing – you absolutely can do it! (You can’t “do it all” but you can do what matters most.)

      Blessings to you and yours,


  49. beautifully written, made me tear up, I, like everyone else, especially loved #3. Thanks so much!!!
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  50. Jamie!
    This post is a home run on all counts! No wonder you call this space Simple Home school. You hit on most key points for homeschooling families just starting out and those who have been at it a while and still have doubts from time to time. The most obvious one… homeschooling or not parents are still responsible!
    I loved it!
    Debbie ( creatively homeschooling for 13 years )
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