How to thrive during a busy homeschool season ~
Written by Caitlin Fitzpatrick Curley of My Little Poppies
I am a huge introvert. Huge.
As an introverted homeschool mama, I have always felt my best when our weeks were filled with ample margin. I treasured that glorious white space in my weekly planner.
Each child used to play one sport. Sure, there were some additional activities sprinkled in, but we had plenty of free time. We hiked daily. We read aloud, leisurely and without restriction, over breakfast and just before bed. We ate dinner as a family every single night.
The kiddos had a consistent bedtime and it was fairly easy to maintain. Our days felt comfortable. Most weeks, we had a certain flow going on and it worked for the entire family.
But now, things have changed.
My children are getting older. At this age, sports teams practice more than one night a week and those practices are longer. There are a few more activities added to our schedules, too. All the activities seem to be clumped in those “after school” hours.
The result? Less of that blessed white space for this introvert.
I knew that this fall would feel challenging for my introverted soul, so I prepared ahead of time. I didn’t want to merely survive the fall, I wanted our family to thrive. I wanted to maintain some margin and make sure we all stayed connected.
And I wanted to eke out some space to introvert. (In my world, introvert is a verb!)
How to Thrive During a Busy Homeschool Season
It’s not perfect by any means, but I am happy to report that our fall, while busy, feels good. Today, I would like to share what is working for our family in the hopes that it will help yours!
Here are my tips for thriving, not just surviving, during a busy homeschool season:
1. A routine that gets you off and running
This varies from person to person, of course. For me, that means an early morning workout and a cup of coffee (or two).
It may seem like adding something to the morning routine would make the day crazier, but it helps me to manage stress. Plus, that morning workout causes a chain reaction.
When I get home, I want to shower right away and get the day off and running.
For the past six months, I have been enjoying an online fitness community called TeacherFit. All that is required is a kettlebell or dumbbells. New workouts are added Monday through Friday. Each workout utilizes high-intensity interval training and they are both challenging and fast.
Everything can be completed at home in a small space. I love this program because it’s easy to do at home, it’s effective, and it’s super affordable. (If this sounds like something you might need, head over to TeacherFit and tell them Cait sent you!)
2. Realistic meal planning
I wish I could say that I am a rockstar homemaker like Martha Stewart, but I am not. I don’t love to cook or to bake, but I do know that food makes for a successful homeschool day. Homeschool kiddos- and their parents- need lots of fuel!
As I mentioned earlier, our weekday dinner hours are spent on the soccer fields. Therefore, a fall meal plan was essential for our family. You can learn more about what our meal plan looks like on this episode of The Homeschool Sisters Podcast.
In a nutshell, I looked at our week and figured out which days I could make meals without stress and which days I’d prefer something easy (read: leftovers).
Then, I asked the kids and my husband what they would like to eat. (It turns out that these favorite meals are not super fast, but I figured out a way to work them in, too.)
It ended up shaking out like this:
- Monday: Simple sheet-pan meal (doubled)
- Tuesday: Leftovers
- Wednesday: Crockpot soup or stew (doubled)
- Thursday: Leftovers
- Friday: Fun Friday Kid Favorite (read: tacos, pizza, burritos, BLT, burgers, etc.) plus a movie
- Saturday: Mama’s night off
- Sunday: Family Dinner Night (more on this in a bit!)
I found four recipes for each day’s theme (Monday, Wednesday, Friday, Sunday), printed the recipes, and stapled them together in order. This way, when I need groceries the ingredient list is easy to find.
(Again, if you’d like to read more about this, please check out the latest episode of The Homeschool Sisters Podcast.)
3. A super-simple chore chart
When you are homeschooling, you’re living in the space you’re learning in… and this results in messes.
I don’t know if you can relate, but there are certain tasks that I ask my children to help me with every single day. Too often, when I ask for help, my kids grumble, or squabble with one another.
It occurred to me that I could make a list of the top six annoying tasks in my household and then assign two to each kiddo per day. Then, rather than harp, I could just tell the children it was time for chores and they would look at the chart and know what to do… without as much grumbling or in-fighting.
In my world, those six chores include:
- Emptying/loading the dishwasher
- Sweeping the kitchen after a meal
- Wiping down countertops after a meal
- Quick-clean of bathroom surfaces
- Vacuuming the family room carpet
- Tidying shoes (because my kiddos get home and explode their shoes and they then get lost, even though we have cubbies for them. Sigh.)
In August, I made a quick chore chart and printed two copies- one for upstairs and one for downstairs.
It’s not fancy, and it’s certainly not Martha Stewart or Pinterest Pretty, but it is working well! If you’d like to hear more about how it works and what the kids think, you can listen here.
4. Prioritizing read-aloud
One of my biggest gripes about busy seasons is the lack of connection, so in this busy homeschool season, I have prioritized our read-aloud time.
We read aloud together over breakfast and/or after breakfast, before any other chores or academic tasks. It feels special to snuggle up on the couch together and enjoy a story. We all know that reading aloud is the single most important “academic” homeschool task, plus it boosts connection and makes memories.
Taking the time to read aloud in the morning makes for a smoother day overall.
5. Nature
Nature is the best medicine. It is good for all of us, not just our kiddos. I consider time in nature to be just as important as math and reading!
(If you are new to nature study, or if you’d like some new ideas, I’ve shared oodles of our family’s favorite resources here.)
6. A Discman
As an introverted homeschool mom facing a busy homeschool season, one thing that I miss is quiet. Thankfully, a dear friend of mine informed me that Best Buy now sells that Discman you remember from childhood!
On our first day of homeschool, I always give each kiddo a back-to-homeschool treat. (You can learn more about our first and last day homeschool traditions here.)
This year, that treat was a Discman. This helps us to eke in some quiet time during a busy season. The children can listen to an audiobook from the library or they can listen to favorite songs. Best part? There is not a screen involved, just plain old-school fun.
7. Sunday night dinners for the win!
I mentioned above that many of our weeknight dinners are spent on the soccer sidelines. That means we have fewer face-to-face meals with the entire family.
One way to make up for lost time is to make those less busy days special.
In our family, that means that we have a “fun” Friday night meal as a family. This fun meal is usually in front of the TV for a weekly family movie night.
Then, on Sunday night, we have a heartier, much-beloved meal (read: pot roast, roast chicken, lasagna, etc.) and sit in our dining room together. We light candles and use cloth napkins and the kids enjoy sparkling cider.
Whatever you do, be sure to protect the margin you do have when you find yourself in a busy homeschool season.
Don’t worry about what other homeschoolers are doing, and don’t be afraid to do you!
Tell us: Are you in a busy homeschool season too? What is helping your family to thrive? Share here!
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Brynne
Hi,
I have a few questions:
1) Is “mom’s night off” when your husband cooks, or you eat out?
2) The chore chart is divided into three weeks or ?
3) Do you go somewhere and do Teacher Fit or do it at home?
4) How far do you have to go to hike?
5) What audiobooks do the kids listen to in their Discman?
6) Do your kids play sports year around or only certain seasons?
7) When you read aloud at breakfast do you have to call your kids together or do they eat at the same time? How do you gather them?
Caitlin Fitzpatrick Curley
Hi, Brynne.
1) Mom’s night off could be anything from take-out, to date night, to cereal for dinner 🙂
2) The chore chart is one week.
3) I do TeacherFit at home in my basement. All you need is a set of dumbbells or a kettlebell.
4) I’m not sure if you mean how far we drive or how long we hike. We live in a rural area so it’s a stone’s throw to any number of hiking places and how long we hike depends on how much time we have.
5) Any ones they choose at the library. If you go to https://my-little-poppies.com/homeschool-book-recommendations/ you can view books we have enjoyed so far this year.
6) Do your kids play sports year around or only certain seasons? The sports vary seasonally, but they play sports year-round.
7) We eat breakfast at the same time-ish and I read when they are all at the kitchen island.
Hope this helps!
Cait
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Brynne
Thank you so much!
Celeste
I love this, Cait. Thank you for sharing – It helps to see that chore chart and meal planning idea in photos, especially for someone who struggles with both!
Caitlin Fitzpatrick Curley
Thank you, Celeste!!
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Caitlin Fitzpatrick Curley
Thanks so much!
Kerstin
Do you have any good resources for sheet pan dinners?
Caitlin Fitzpatrick Curley
I just googled “sheet pan dinner” and entered some foods that I knew my kids would eat and then tried some new recipes 🙂
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kerstin
Thanks!
Jennifer
Kerstin, my favorite sheet pan meal is just cubed chicken thighs or breasts, potatoes, onions, carrots and any other veggies, drizzled with olive oil, salt and pepper and any other spices, roasted at 350 degrees about 30 min. If you want to add more delicate veggies, like peas, or any from a can, just add towards the end of cooking.
Allison
Really, really loved reading this. Wonderful, practical ideas that focus in on priorities which can do easily get lost in busy seasons. You can see the connections you are making with your family shining through even though it doesn’t look the same as the younger years. Love this!
Caitlin Fitzpatrick Curley
Thank you so much, Allison. Happy Fall to you and yours!
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Cheryl
The struggle is real! Sometimes I feel like I’m the only parent on the team that resents losing more than half their evenings a week to sports. Long evenings at home with three course meals are a thing of the past. I can’t even remember the last time we played a game at night. But I do think sports are wonderful, and as an only child, he needs the social outlet as well. Still I’m counting down the days until fall baseball is over. At least basketball and indoor soccer have time limits.
One thing that helped me is to bring work to do during practices, so then it feels less like I’m wasting my time, and more like I’m going to my studio to focus on something. Or I make sure to get in a run during warm-ups (and maybe the first inning or two). And I always do my grocery shopping during gymnastics practice.
Caitlin Fitzpatrick Curley
Love these tips, Cheryl! I walk a track and listen to podcasts during practices. And I hear you on baseball. All my baseball mom friends tell me to be grateful that soccer games are so much shorter. And I am thankful for that. I hope you have as peaceful a busy season as possible!
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Shelley
This was such a beautiful post, thank you so much Cait!
Shelley
PS Speaking of staying connected during busy times…audiobooks rock! Your and Kara’s enthusiasm for audiobooks (never my thing, but I decided to give them a try after all your podcasts) has spread to our family and taken us by storm. THANK YOU for that! I would not have discovered the whole audiobook world without you two, and I can’t imagine having our first year of homeschool now without them. With all the driving around we do , having our “car” audiobook (a CD from library) to enjoy as a family has helped us stay connected even with lots of travel, which could otherwise feel scattered. At home we use audible on my laptop for our “home” audiobooks. My older kids have lost interest in listening to me read-aloud (which I hope might change as we get more into homeschooling) which dashed my snuggle-together-for-read-aloud dreams , but listening to an audiobook together is a more than good enough compromise, and they love it, so I’m not complaining! (My attention tends to drift listening to audiobooks– oddly, unless I’m in the car— so for our home audiobooks I don’t actually sit and listen with them (although I hear it playing!) , I just read the paper copy on my own- which is good enough. We can still share the story experience.) THANK YOU for all the fantastic ideas and inspiration!
Caitlin Fitzpatrick Curley
This made me so happy, Shelley! I am glad you’re enjoying audiobooks. They are such a game-changer for busy homeschool mamas!
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Deneen
Such smart tips! It’s totally why I stalk ya! 😀
Caitlin Fitzpatrick Curley
I’m just seeing this! Can’t wait to meet you in person in 2020!
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Jennifer
Great rotation process for chores. I am inspired to start a chore chart. Also really want one of those discmans, forgot all about those and would be so helpful. Thanks for sharing!
Caitlin Fitzpatrick Curley
Hope the chore system and discman make life easier for you, Jennifer! It’s still going strong over here!