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Pressing through the middle years of homeschooling

November 11, 2014 //  by Hannah Vanderpool//  21 Comments

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Written by Hannah Vanderpool of Praying With One Eye Open

I’m a writer who likes fresh beginnings and well-timed endings.  Middles?  Not so much.

When I think about the middle of, say, a novel manuscript, I imagine a hammock creaking under the weight of a couple of lemonade-sipping kids or a dad who really ought to be mowing the lawn.

Creative writing instructors refer to these in-between pages as the dreaded “saggy middle.”

They teach rookies and published authors alike how to push through their own saggy middles with enough energy and forward momentum to keep readers engaged until the end.

This is important because it’s easier to start a story, and even to finish it, than it is to keep putting one foot in front of the other when you’re in the middle of a thing and can’t see your way to an ending yet.

As it turns out, writing is not my day job–homeschooling is.  I’ve been on this particular journey for nine years now.

Our family started strong when my three kids were barely out of Pull-ups (yes, I was over eager).  I hope to finish well, too, when my youngest daughter is finally ready to fly my little coop.

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But all three kids are in middle school now and, like the middle pages of a story I love, I’ve found that this season presents new challenges.

I have to discipline myself not to become bored, irritated, or anxious to skip ahead in this chapter of homeschooling.

I remind myself that there is much to learn in the middle of things.

Still, let’s be honest.  Despite our best intentions, in the thick of hormones, squabbles, and burgeoning “Give me liberty, or give me death” speeches, things can get hairy for a homeschooling mom in the middle years.

Here are some tips that help our family navigate the pitfalls:

Make sure your middle schooler is getting enough exercise.

The other day the kids and I were working on memory drill and they kept yawning and looking off into the distance.

I grew increasingly annoyed with each slow blink because A) I know they get enough sleep, and B) their schedules are remarkably roomy.  All I ask is for a little focused attention now and then.

But then it struck me.  Maybe if we get our blood flowing … And that did it.  After two minutes of jumping jacks they were ready to join me again.  Their eyes were clear, they were laughing.  Problem solved.

Note to self: exercise is the answer to a lot of attention/focus issues.

Prepare for (your kids’) mood swings.

It’s not just girls who experience them, I’m here to tell you.  For both boys and girls, middle school is a season of life that brings with it the gift of happy-sad-angry-confused-elated-bored feelings in manic little loops–several times a day.

I know this, but I forget sometimes.  Reminding myself that these seesaw emotions are a natural, normal part of growing up helps me not to take everything so personally (not…that I ever do that, of course).

Note to self: sometimes we all just need a big time-out.

Read to your kids, even though they are tall and wear deodorant.

Middle schoolers aren’t completely sure they want to grow up.  They still have one foot firmly in childhood most days.

It’s a dance we parents do, trying to decide what’s what for a kid who isn’t sure what he wants or needs.

One way to express love to, and maintain closeness with your middle schooler is to read aloud to her.  This is something I do with my kids every day, and we all cherish it.

My kids are able to read on their own, of course, and they do, often.  But the time we spend reading together allows them to be little kids again, to temporarily set aside the quest to grow up.  It allows me to hearken back to a simpler time and to remember why I love homeschooling.

Note to self: I love this life.  I always have.  Even now, with hormones.

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I look back on our homeschool beginning with fondness.  The journey stretched before me then, a fresh path with no footprints in it.

I imagine its end will be bittersweet, too.

I’ll long for the days when we all woke up under the same roof, when we lived like we had forever together.

But I want to be a person who cherishes these middle years, too, because the middle is where most of life happens.

I want to put one foot in front of the other, not grudgingly, not skimming these pages.  I want to live the middle years with my kids intentionally.

I want to smile.  Making sure we get enough exercise, show each other grace, and stay connected makes me feel like I can.

Are you homeschooling through the ‘saggy middle’ right now too?

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About Hannah Vanderpool

Hannah Vanderpool is a writer, a world traveler, and a homeschooling mom to two great high schoolers and a middle schooler. She can’t imagine a world without sisters and books. You can find her at Praying With One Eye Open.

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  1. Lori

    November 11, 2014 at 8:05 am

    Oh, that was just beautiful.

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  2. Hannah

    November 11, 2014 at 8:30 am

    Glad you enjoyed it. 🙂
    Hannah’s latest post: Pressing Through the Middle Years of Homeschooling

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  3. Kristen

    November 11, 2014 at 8:42 am

    Not there yet, but feel as though its within fingertips reach with a rapidly maturing 9 year old and her sister trailing just behind her. My goal has always been to school the girls at home during these middle years to save them from, in my opinion, some of the worst social angst years. I think this is beautiful and wise.

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    • Hannah

      November 11, 2014 at 9:06 am

      I feel the same way!
      Hannah’s latest post: Pressing Through the Middle Years of Homeschooling

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  4. Penny

    November 11, 2014 at 8:43 am

    Thank you, thank you, thank you! I so needed to hear this. Beautifully said.

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    • Hannah

      November 11, 2014 at 9:07 am

      Oh, I’m glad. Writing it helped me to remember these things for myself.
      Hannah’s latest post: Pressing Through the Middle Years of Homeschooling

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  5. sheila

    November 11, 2014 at 8:45 am

    Great advice.
    My oldest is in middle school and I feel like I am re-inventing the wheel of homeschooling, AFTER I just figured out our groove with elementary school! LOL It is a difficult passage for everyone involved. I try to keep in mind that our relationship is more important than any other lesson. This is easier some days than others.
    Always good to hear voices of those homeschooling older children.
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    • Hannah

      November 11, 2014 at 1:21 pm

      It’s good for all of us to admit that it isn’t always the funnest…But still good. 🙂
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  6. Kristina

    November 11, 2014 at 9:47 am

    We have passed through those years and now I can say I miss those days. Those were the days when they still looked to me for guidance. They were just in that threshold of being little boys and becoming young men. I have one little boy left and he asks me all the time about when he can start wearing deodorant.
    Kristina’s latest post: Learning the Scientific Method: Gummy Bear Experiment

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    • Hannah

      November 11, 2014 at 10:38 am

      I need to hear things like that. These are beautiful/tough years.
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  7. Susan

    November 11, 2014 at 9:54 am

    I really needed this in this season of our journey. Thanks for sharing.

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    • Hannah

      November 11, 2014 at 10:38 am

      You are welcome. I need the reminders–every, single day.
      Hannah’s latest post: Pressing Through the Middle Years of Homeschooling

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  8. Lisa

    November 11, 2014 at 10:53 am

    Middle school was tough for me when I homeschooled, especially the girls.

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    • Hannah

      November 11, 2014 at 1:28 pm

      Yeah. It has its (very intense) moments. I have two sons and a daughter and they are so close in age that they are ALL going through middle school at the same time. Whew!
      Hannah’s latest post: Pressing Through the Middle Years of Homeschooling

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  9. Caroline Starr Rose

    November 11, 2014 at 11:00 am

    I clicked through to comment and realize I know you, Hannah! Hello!

    Just wanted to say as former middle school teacher and now a mom of a middle schooler, I’m so grateful for the beautiful respect you’ve extended to children this age. I often heard some pretty awful things about middle schoolers when I’d tell people about my job. It made me hurt for my goofy, wonderful, exasperating, energized crowd. Thank you for a different mindset.
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    • Hannah

      November 11, 2014 at 1:23 pm

      Hey, there! (Your book, May B., is on my daughter’s shelf). Anyway, I’m glad that this post came off as respectful. I am not always respectful of my kids in this stage and they aren’t always respectful of me and my stage 🙂 But we’re working on it.
      Hannah’s latest post: Pressing Through the Middle Years of Homeschooling

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  10. Jeanine Byers

    November 11, 2014 at 6:44 pm

    Yes, indeed, I am pressing through the middle years of homeschooling, so this post was right on time! Very encouraging. Loved it!!

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  11. Nivedita

    November 12, 2014 at 4:23 am

    Beautiful thoughts, Hannah! I send my kids to school, at this point I am just exploring home schooling as, try as I might, my older one (10 years old) seems to hate school. Whether I end up doing it or not, som many of the “Notes to self” that you have penned down are definitely going to be “notes to me” as well!

    Thanks once again,

    Nivi

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  12. Stephanie

    November 12, 2014 at 6:14 pm

    Thank you so much for this article! My daughter is in the middle of 6th grade, and some days just feel like we will never get through it. I haven’t seen many articles about the middle years and I am beginning to believe it may be the hardest time in our homeschooling life. I have to remind myself to take a deep breath and enjoy it anyway. All the while showing PATIENCE and a LOT of LOVE!

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  13. Demi

    November 13, 2014 at 3:31 pm

    Today I’m praying we make it to the middle years. My 6-year-old son is driving me absolutely nuts. I know he likes learning, because he talks about the things he’s learning about when we’re not doing school. But then during school he keeps asking for breaks, says he won’t do his worksheets (or whatever we need to do), and just generally driving me up the wall. We are already sagging I’m afraid.

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    • Jamie Martin

      November 13, 2014 at 6:11 pm

      God bless you, Demi! Hang in there and you might find a bit of inspiration in these posts: http://simplehomeschl.wpengine.com/help-my-5-year-old-wont-do-school/ and http://simplehomeschl.wpengine.com/core-phase/

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