Written by contributor Rachel Wolf of Clean and LuSa Organics
There are as many different ways to parent as there are kids.
And while some of us hit our groove on day-one, others struggle to find that just-right fit for years.
Many find a turning point in the act of simply putting pen to paper and jotting down the answer to one simple (yet challenging) question: “What is my parenting mission?”
My business has a mission statement. Why not my home?
Because sometimes we forget our goals. Or we lose our way.
When we do our mission statement can help put us back on track.
I shared my parenting mission statement here.
And simply jotting down those words helped my direct my parenting (and yes, homeschooling) path. I make choices each day with these goals in mind.
I think of it this way: If I have a basket of apples, how I work with those apples will be different depending on my culinary vision. Do I want juice? Sauce? Pie? Dried apples? Hard cider?
Depending on my goal I will follow a different path in how I prepare my fruit.
And while our children are certainly not produce, how we parent them shapes who they become almost as much as that apple-turned-pie.
Crafting your own mission statement can help you hone in on the path that’s just right for you and your children.
1. Make a list
Make a list of the skills and traits that you want your home and homeschool to nurture in your child. Curiosity, self-confidence, patience, compassion, determination, service… jot down anything that comes to mind.
2. Transform those life-skills into a mission statement
For example, “Determination: I will provide my child with challenging activities that are of interest to her. I will stay close and and guide her towards completion, even when she is feeling discouraged.”
3. Live it
Take your goals to heart and strive to live your mission each day. Hang it on your fridge. Keep it on your desk. Read it every morning. Whatever it takes to remember your goals.
4. Revise it
As your children grow, undoubtedly your list will change. Edit it as needed through the years to breathe new life into your mission statement.
Personally, my mission is most helpful on the days when I’ve lost my way.
When I’m not the parent I strive to be.
On those days I remember my mission and get back on track.
Because no one is perfect. But knowing what kind of adults you are growing can be just the thing to keep you on moving in the right direction.
* More peaceful parenting – your mission statement
What about you? What gifts do you want your children to carry into adulthood and how do you help them learn these skills?
What an incredible idea, Rachel! Thanks so much for sharing! You’ve definitely inspired me to create my own parenting manifesto : )
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Totally agree. And it’s fun to do too! I made a homeschooling mission statement a few years ago: http://mamaofletters.com/2012/01/07/our-homeschool-mission/
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This is a great idea! I sometimes feel like I am floundering a bit with my crazy kiddos, but it is a journey, right? And I definitely agree that there are a million and one ways to parent children, everyone needs to look for what works best for them.
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Great idea! I am absolutely on it! Some of my goals is to teach my kids to be responsible and be independent on their school work and putting God at the center of everything. It’s easier to make a mission statement, to live by it is another story. Thanks for the tip! Definitely implementing it!
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I loved this post! It was so clarifying; after just reading the title I was able to easily write a one sentence mission statement. This was a great redirect for me. It’s easy to get bogged down in the everydayness of life – this reminded me of the big picture. Thank you!
I think it puts a focus into perspective when you have a mission set as a parent. I know my main mission is to really train and prepare my children for this very tough world, and I love it.
My primary goal as a mama has been to raise happy, kind children, but i really look forward to taking this a step further and developing a full mission statement. I actually think I just assigned myself some homework.