5 magical moments homeschoolers can look forward to this year ~
Written by Jamie C. Martin of Simple Homeschool and Introverted Moms
There’s SO much information online these days for homeschoolers to access. #majorunderstatement
Much of it centers around helping you choose curriculum, set schedules, and create productive routines.
Today, however, I wanted to focus on five JOYS that await you this this back to school season, whether you’re a sudden, unexpected home educator or homeschooling has been your plan all along.
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I pray that keeping an eye out for these magical moments will help you through both the good and the bad days that will inevitably come. And even if you’ve been homeschooling a decade or more like I have, you have these to look forward to again this year!
5 magical moments homeschoolers can look forward to this year
1. A magical read-aloud moment
If you’ve researched homeschooling much, you’ve likely read about the importance of reading aloud, and how it can be an incredibly powerful and simple way to help our kids learn.
But if you’ve been trying to integrate reading-aloud into your days, particularly with more than one child, you’ve likely seen for yourself that it isn’t always picture perfect.
A good friend of mine, who uses a literature-based curriculum, jokes about the day years ago when she called her kids to the table for read-aloud time, and one frustratingly replied, “When I grow up I’m never reading another book again!”
This was not exactly the family bonding and love of learning atmosphere she had hoped for!
I can personally remember many read-aloud sessions where sibling torture and vacant stares predominated, where I wondered if any of my three children were even paying attention.
But then suddenly, unexpectedly, magic happens. Everyone is engaged, on the edge of their seat. Everyone begs for one more page or chapter. And it hits you, “This! This is why I do what I do!”
You can never predict when that moment will appear, but eventually, it will. And it’s exhilarating.
2. A magical learning moment
“SLOW – KIDS AT PLAY.”
As we walked around the block one school morning a decade ago, my son Jonathan read those words from a neighborhood sign. He hadn’t had any reading lessons yet, and I had no idea that he could do it.
I was there. I heard every sweet syllable.
Just like watching our kids take their first steps or hearing them say “Mama” for the first time, learning “firsts” are equally magical, and they can happen no matter the age of your child.
You might see your son read for the first time or watch your daughter write her first sentence.
Perhaps there’s an area of struggle that is grueling for both you and your child, and a burst of insight strikes out of nowhere. He gets it, where before he was stuck.
And you? You were the one who helped him. It doesn’t get any better than that!
Or maybe you’ll see a child develop a passion for a subject or topic – one that she never would have had time for if she had been at school. Suddenly she’s investing hours in her own learning, without you having to prompt or give reminders at all.
Slowly, you glimpse her natural love of learning, the one she always had as a curious toddler and preschooler, returning. It makes all the hard work seem worth it.
3. A magical emotional moment
Sometime this year, there will be tears. Yours and theirs. Some of those tears will come on the really hard days that make their way to each of us in this life with its challenges.
But others? Will be healing tears. Because of the extra hours homeschooling gives to families, important internal issues that might have gone unnoticed will rise to the surface sooner.
There’s simply fewer places to hide or stuff them down.
One morning, you might find a child or teen crying. You’ll take a deep breath and summon the patience to listen. That moment will transform into a magical gift.
Your child will open up, and you’ll know it never would have happened if he or she had been away from you all day.
4. A magical moment of protection
At least once this year, you’ll hear about something going on at the school down the street – whichever school your children would be attending if you weren’t home educating.
It could be bullying, an outbreak of COVID, or stress over upcoming standardized tests. It could even be something much more serious, unexpected, and tragic, like the call I received years ago about the devastating school shooting in our neighborhood.
You’ll hang up the phone or log off the computer and look at your child, happily playing with a Lego village on the floor. Safe and oblivious to whatever is going on.
And you’ll give thanks.
5. A magical family moment
When I had three elementary-aged children, they couldn’t seem to spend five minutes in each other’s presence without engaging in some form of sibling squabble.
Very close in age, there inevitably seemed a competition underway to see who could come out on top, who had the most power.
But now and then there would also be magic. One day we returned from a field trip and I left the kids to play outside for a while.
When I looked out the window, I saw this:
I grabbed my camera to go document the magic–all of them playing, kindly, together. Years later, this photo is still one of my heart’s treasures!
This magic can also happen with your extended family (or those who feel like family, whether or not you’re actually related). Homeschooling allows relatives to get involved, to be a part of our kids’ educations.
That day when you watch your mom on Zoom, doing a read aloud or sharing one of her own passions with your children, will be a moment you’ll cherish forever.
Homeschooling can be hard, yes. Make no mistake about that.
But you’re also entering a year of adventure!
I pray that each day brings you a little gift, one that reminds you that all you’re doing on behalf of your children deeply matters, and that no one else is equipped to do it quite like you can.
Enjoy the magic!
Do you have a magical moment from your homeschooling days, weeks, months, or years that you’d like to share below? I’d love to hear it!
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Pat
Thanks for the support. However, I am desperate how to motivate my son to want to learn without me forcing him.
Is there an answer I have not tried yet? This morning I am not my best , because I am exhausted from seeing how lack motivated he is towards learning.
All he wants is to play with friends on computer. They are not gone to school yet. So I guess I should just let him play until friend are off to school?
Help!
I need answer.
Thanks
Desperate mom
Sarah
I have found that consistency helps a lot with my unmotivated son. If I have a daily schedule/routine on the wall, and stick to it, there’s much less push-back. He helps decide the schedule. I include on that schedule breaks like “Minecraft time” and “outside play time.” That way, he knows he’ll get to do what he wants, and he knows when we will be doing other things.
Have one or two blocks of time (or firm time limits) each day when he’s allowed to do computer games, and be consistent.
Sara
Hi! That’s tough! If he’s already having a hard time loving learning it’s gonna be even harder if his friends are still in Summer break. I totally understand cause even though we are in school here my 12 year olds friends start and get out each day earlier than us. He wants to be on video chat w them. You could try waiting if it’s not gonna mess up your schedule too badly.
Or maybe start slow? Give him an assignment or 2 in the morning and again in the afternoon when he’s taking a break from friends. Or maybe if he’s old enough give him a checklist of stuff to get done before he can play with friends and maybe his motivation to play would drive him to knock it out? Last year my son would sometimes get half his school done before I was up and moving just to get it done and have free time after. : )
Jamie C. Martin
I’m so sorry, Pat! We all feel this way and worry about this at times.
Here are a few links that might help:
https://tjed.org/2015/01/advice-homeschoolers/
https://simplehomeschool.net/coronavirus/
Hannah
How old is your son? It sounds like he might not be very old yet. I don’t have much experience yet, but I wanted to encourage you – if he’s young (you said his friends are not yet at school), don’t worry too much about what you might think of as “learning” – things like sitting down to do maths workbooks and handwriting and reading lessons.
Lots of real-life playing (not too much computer playing) and lots of reading books that he is interested in – these are the best things for young children 🙂
Maths concepts come up all the time in real life play. And the more books children sit and hear and look at, the more they will want to learn to read for themselves.
Jamie C. Martin
So true, Hannah!
Amber A Hall
When my child’s motivation begins to decline, I focus on making the challengin tasks fun. Math games, science experiments, Mad Libs, etc. Sometimes, we also need a break. Yesterday, we were all kind of tired and grumpy, so we had a lazy movie day, watched Finding Nemo, and paused the movie to color/label ocean animals then pasted them into the correct ocean layer on our chart.
Jamie C. Martin
Such lovely ideas, Amber!
Adrian
I love when my daughter starts to excitedly tell my husband about what we learned that day without any prompting. It helps me keep going on hard days.
Jamie C. Martin
So special–love it!
Courtenay Burden
That copy of Farmer Boy in the photos sure brought back memories! I’ve got the same edition (absolutely falling to pieces – like literally, front and back are no longer connected!) stowed away in my closet right now!