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Prioritizing mental health in your homeschool this year

August 18, 2020 //  by Kara Anderson//  4 Comments

Prioritizing mental health in your homeschool this year ~
Written by Kara S. Anderson

I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that this year, it’s more important than ever to prioritize mental health in our homeschools.

As I write this at the tail-end of July, already I am getting frantic emails and my podcast partner Cait and I are getting concerned voicemails about the homeschool year ahead.

Parents suddenly thrust into distance learning are scrambling, and so many are still struggling with the decision of how to homeschool given their own work requirements and unique family dynamics.

Plus, many parents are reaching out to say that their kids are having a really hard time.

Little quirks from before – a child that maybe struggled with sleep on occasion or felt a little anxious sometimes – have turned into full-on health issues in some cases. It seems like any traits from before the pandemic are dialed up for all of us.

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So I think that as we enter this new homeschool year, whether we are seasoned homeschoolers or brand new – we need to be sure that we are placing mental health – our children’s and our own – at the forefront of our homeschools.

Prioritizing mental health in your homeschool this year

Self-care matters (and isn’t selfish!)

My main mental health struggle is anxiety. Looking back now, I can see that I’ve had it since I was a kid. And during the pandemic, it peaked. Luckily, I have a counselor and a doctor who I work with to balance my medication and keep me on track with self-care.

In fact, at every appointment, both my doctor and my counselor ask me what I am doing for self-care.

Much more than a trendy term that translates to manicures and face masks (the old, goopy kind), self-care can encompass many physical, emotional and spiritual components to help us stay at our best.

Things like:

  • Exercise or movement
  • Journaling
  • Prayer or meditation
  • Eating well
  • Staying hydrated
  • Making time for hobbies and interests

If you or your kiddos are highly sensitive, it’s helpful to take sensory needs into account, too – it might help to burn candles to eliminate stale smells or try to limit noise as much as possible. (These are an amazing invention! – afflink)

A daily walk might help you reset when recovering from a melt-down (yours or theirs.)

Mostly, self-care is about figuring what you need, and knowing that it’s okay to need it. And by prioritizing it, we’re teaching our kids that it’s okay to care for ourselves and good to learn healthy coping mechanisms.

Plan for it

This will be our 13th year of homeschooling, and something that I’ve learned is that when things reach an emotional boiling point, it feels so much better to take an intentional mental health day (or even half-day), than it does to lose your cool and throw in the towel on a random Wednesday.

So when things start to get hard, it can be really helpful to just notice …

Signs to look for in our kids can include crying more often, “whining,” arguing with siblings – these things can feel frustrating and feed into our own anxiety, worry and insecurity. But if we can pull back and see the bigger picture, these behaviors are just the tip of the iceberg.

In my book, More Than Enough, I share about how what we see of an iceberg is just the top percent. The remaining 90 percent is invisible beneath the water:

“That’s how I think of behavior.

Throwing the pencil out of frustration is the part we see.

What we don’t see is fear:

  • I don’t understand long division
  • My brother gets long division and he’s two years younger than me
  • What if I never get this?
  • Am I stupid?
  • Does Mom think I’m stupid? 

Imagine all those thoughts swirling in you. I would want to throw a pencil too.

I’m not condoning the throwing of sharp implements, of course, I’m just saying that when our kids are struggling, it’s so important not to pile on, and to address the underlying cause, not just the outward behavior.”

And right now, the underlying cause might very well be stress and overwhelm.

Our kids may not be able to vocalize it, but I’m certain many of them are feeling it.

And parents are too.

Simple steps

So what can we do when it all feels like too much?

First, we can remember that we are not alone in this right now. Whether kids are homeschooling, distance learning, hybrid schooling or back in school, things are odd and stressful for everyone.

It probably isn’t your school choice that is causing things to feel overwhelming. 

Second, I think it’s more important now than ever to focus on being Mom (or Dad).

When your kids are having a hard time, take off the teacher hat, throw it across the room, and focus on your baby, even if that baby is 16 and taller than you are.

Emotional needs are REAL.

Which is why we also need to focus on our own self-care as parents.

We can’t help anyone if we are just barely holding on ourselves.

So my advice to all of us this year is to lower expectations, focus on connection with our kids, and focus on prioritizing mental health in our homeschool.

In ten years’ time, we’ll look back and know that we made the right decision–one that just might have made all the difference for us and our people.

(And if that means you need extra help, don’t be afraid to reach out to your doctor or a counselor. Or, you can also contact the National Alliance on Mental Illness Helpline at 800-950-6264 Monday through Friday from 10 a.m, to 6 p.m., EST or in a crisis, text “NAMI” to 741741 for 24/7, confidential, free crisis counseling.)

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Category: a mom's educationTag: mental health

About Kara Anderson

Kara is a homeschooling mom of 13 years, with a goal of encouraging fellow mamas in connection, not perfection. She also's the happy co-host of The Homeschool Sisters podcast and author of More Than Enough: Grow Your Confidence, Banish Burnout and Love Your Homeschool Life.

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  1. Shawna Wingert

    August 18, 2020 at 10:09 am

    This is so good, Kara – and so needed right now. Thank you.
    Shawna Wingert’s latest post: What You Need To Know About Your First Month Back To School (even at home)

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    • Kara

      August 18, 2020 at 3:13 pm

      Aww. Thank you, friend.

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  2. Jen

    August 19, 2020 at 8:09 am

    I am a single mom with two children on the opposite end of the learning spectrum. One loves school and thrives with online stuff the other needs the one on one instruction. With juggling a demanding full time job it will be challenging, but we will make it work. Thank you for these reminders, it helps!

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  3. Jane

    August 25, 2020 at 12:00 am

    Thank you for acknowledging my family’s reality. While working in a school this spring, I saw that education wasn’t really happening, and my child has special needs and can’t afford to get further behind. But more to the point, my child had a mental health emergency this summer brought on by the isolation caused by this pandemic and my high-risk status (yet another reason for us to stay out of the schools). Suddenly, we are dealing with the behavioral health system at the same time as homeschooling for the first time. I’ve been reading lots of blog posts that I just don’t relate to, about things like worrying about being a perfect instructor or the best homeschool family or making the prettiest homeschool room etc., whereas I am dealing with a tween continually teetering on the edge of a meltdown who is plastered to my side needing reassurance and continual encouragement. Surely we are not alone!

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